So I’m just 6 months shy of my 30th birthday and I’m finding that I’m becoming more and more intolerable of the club scene.
Now I’ve never been huge into partying anyway. Give me a great DVD and some good company and I’m fine. In saying that I do love to dance and like having a drink at a nice bar. One where you can hear the person next to you without either of you having to shout and the music isn’t blaring.
I’ve always been like this. I went out a few times between the ages of 18-21. Then I was done.
Until I was around 25, then I started venturing out to the clubs with my new batch of friends.
Different company different experience. I felt a little better about it but I was still not 100% comfortable.
Now as I’m nearing my 30th birthday I’m starting to really dislike the club scene the second I get there.
The pushing and shoving, the random guy grabbing my butt, the TERRIBLE music, the drunk guys who think they are gods gift! Guess what guys you aren’t! Just tonight I had a friend of a friend say to me ‘you’re the girl get me a drink’. I don’t handle drunk guys very well on a good day so he totally got a mouthful from me tonight. The guy just wouldn’t let up and was extremely rude so I got a little angry. And rightfully so.
Guys you are not charming when you’re drunk and rude and obnoxious! Actually it makes you extremely unattractive. Now this could also be attributed to the fact that he’s all of say 21. But age should be no excuse. 3 of the other 21 year olds out tonight were absolutely lovely. One was very drunk yes but still polite. None of those three were disrespectful. Yes there are guys my age who are absolute jerks as well but the majority out in town are younger ‘fresh blood’ on the scene.
Bottom line is:
I do not need to impress a 21 year old. I do not have have time for your games.
I do not want a one night stand.
I do not want to be disrespected.
Where are all the real men, the gentlemen who treat a woman with the respect they deserve.
As I sat outside a bar tonight watching all the young girls walk past in the most atrocious and un-classy clothing, and seeing all the ‘boys’ NOT men walk past I realized as I near 30 one man had it absolutely right the whole time. As Murtaugh so eloquently puts it in ‘Lethal Weapon’: ‘I’m too old for this shit’.
I don’t think I’m being unreasonable. A little respect to me and to yourself will go a long way.